never judge a book by it's cover . . .

for the cover itself may be the only thing that is deceiving.

-Arykah C.




So as I'm having a conversation with one of my male friends..sex comes up as one of the subjects. I go on to let him know that I've only had sex with one person....


I am 19 years old. I am not ashamed of this whatsoever. I am very proud to let it be known. When one sees an attractive woman, one thinks "she must talk to a lot of guys" or "she's a hoe/slut/whore"..reality is, not every attractive girl is a slut. Most are very classy. I, for one, have respect for myself. It takes a lot more than kissing, rubbing, holding, and touching, for me at least. Having sex with every guy I talk to as a friend or hang out with is the least bit of my worries. Friends are friends. They come in every sex, shape, color, and size.


Believe it or not, but it's the truth. No need to lie about my sex life.







Let's stop the judging.



We hear about something that happens, and way too often we immediately assume things. We base our opinions and discussions on what we want to be right, what we think is right, or what appears to be right. We make our judgments based on those assumptions.

We need to go beyond appearances.
Sometimes our judgments are wrong because our information is wrong. Sometimes our assumptions are wrong because we refuse to accept what is true. So we take what we are given, either without question or without examination, then we make up our mind, "This is the truth." Nothing can convince us otherwise.

Jesus said, "Make a right judgment."

We need to go beyond appearances. We need to get beneath the obvious and dig out the truth, whether it is what we want it to be or not. We must refuse to settle for what everyone else says is right, what everyone else believes is right, what everyone else likes, or what everyone else perceives to be the truth.

We can settle for hearsay. We can be satisfied for apparent truths. We can settle for what we want to be right or what appears to be right. We can do that. But Jesus said, "Stop judging by mere appearances, and make a right judgment."


oxox Arykah